Arriving from Xi'an on the high speed train, I stood looking lost and anxious at Beijing West Station, a building which looked more like Heathrow airport in style and scale, than a railway station. I wanted to buy a train ticket to Shanghai before I left the station, and I then needed to get to my hotel in central Beijing close to the Forbidden City. A taxi driver approached me and tried to get me to walk to his car, but I was adamant that I needed my next train ticket first and our mutual language barriers meant we were getting nowhere. After travelling for 8 hours and standing with a large rucksack on my back and a smaller one on my front weighing me down, my face must have been a picture.
Fortunately, it was at this point that a young woman approached me and asked in perfect English if she could help? I explained what I wanted and she said that I could not buy a train ticket for Shanghai from this station and asked why I was not going to use the subway to get to my hotel? The taxi driver, sensing he was about to lose his western 'fish', became angry with the young woman, but she remained unflustered and said "come on, I am taking the subway too. You can come with me and I'll make sure you get to your hotel." The taxi driver stomped his feet, spat on the ground and walked off as we headed in the opposite direction to get a subway ticket. "The subway is only 2 yuan in Beijing (20 pence) and he was going to charge you 70 yuan."
As we walked we chatted, exchanged names and started to learn about each other. XiaoBai (pronounced Zow-by) taught me about the subway system, explained the ticket procedure and security protocols and before I knew it we were speeding towards central Beijing.
She took care to ensure I knew what platforms and connections I needed as she prepared to get off the train a number of stops before me. We said farewell and quickly exchanged contact details.
When I arrived at my hotel, I decided to let her know I had arrived safely at my hotel. I then asked if she wanted to meet for a drink or a meal whilst I was in Beijing? Being me, I prefaced it with the usual "I don't mind if you say no, if you can't make it, if you have existing commitments or you don't want to, but..?" She agreed and we arranged a date for Sunday.
The next day I took myself to Tiananmen Square with a plan to tour the museum and surrounding area. I had no sooner stepped out of the security area when a Chinese girl approached me and asked if I wanted a guide? I replied that I was fine thank you, but she asked where I was going and then proceeded to tell me why my plan wasn't a good one and how I should visit the Forbidden City today with a guide and not leave it until the weekend. When I asked her how much she would charge as a guide, she answered 100 yuan (£10.00 for half a day.) I agreed and we introduced ourselves as she walked me to Chairman Mao's Mausoleum. Her English name was Mary and her spoken English was excellent. Within an hour we had paid our respects to Mao (laying a flower at his crystal coffin) and were heading to the sacred Palace of the Emperors.
Entering the Forbidden City
The day progressed and Mary taught me lots about the history of China, the Ming and Jing dynasties, the Forbidden City and Modern China. We decided to stay together into the afternoon and evening and found a restaurant to eat in and I agreed to visit a traditional Chinese massage service. Wary, but enjoying Mary's company, I went along and had a vigorous foot and leg massage which was part reflexology and part torture. I then had a neck, shoulder and back massage from the same guy, who proceeded to pummel and abuse me (I ached for three days afterwards and lost some range of motion in my neck for 24 hours!) Throughout, I was plied with a range of different teas and a small part of me was concerned that not only was I probably going to be robbed, mugged or conned, but I may even be being drugged! After all, I had promised to pay Mary as my guide, I had paid for both our entries into a range of venues, paid for our evening meal and drink and was now in a Chinese massage parlour saying 'yes' to an increasing range of treatments and refreshments.
I needn't have worried. At 10.00pm, Mary walked me back to my hotel and it was time to settle my bill. I asked her what I owed her. After 12 hours together I prepared myself for an extortionate demand. "200 yuan," she replied. I told her this was not sufficient and promptly gave her 300 (I told you my bartering was poor!) and asked if she wanted to be my guide again on Sunday with a trip to the Summer Palace? She did and said she would collect me from my hotel at 9.00am prompt.
On the Sunday morning Mary arrived early and stood outside in the cold whilst I finished my breakfast. When I saw her, I beckoned her in and went to get my coat and bag. We took the subway and chatted about our respective day before (I'd been to the Great Wall, but Mary had failed to secure a client for the day.)
When we arrived at the Summer Palace I paid our entrance fee and Mary was like a child visiting Disneyland. She had studied the Summer Palace, but had clearly not been before. I admired the boats in the river and she asked if we could go in one? I agreed and she skipped to the ticket office. We then sailed around Kunming Lake and through the canals and waterways before exploring the palace galleries and buildings on foot. Four hours later we decided to leave and find some food.
Mary at the Summer Palace
We took a rick-shaw to a park and a wonderful Chinese food court, but Mary was increasingly quiet. She was annoyed I was going to stop our date to meet XiaoBai at 4.00. I'd told her all about our meeting at the train station and our plans to meet up, but as the time got closer, Mary could not hide her disappointment. I assured her that if I'd had another day in Beijing, I would not have double booked the day.
True to her word, Mary got me on a subway train and heading for my next meeting by 3.45 and we said farewell. I gave her another 300yuan for her guidance and we promised to keep in touch. If she did not live in a communist state, I'd hope she would read my blog for herself, but she tried to access it the day we first met and she is unable to do so.
At 4.00pm prompt I arrived at Xianmen subway station ready to meet XiaoBai. I could recall nothing about how she looked (apart from the fact that she was Chinese, had short black hair and glasses!!) I hoped she'd recognise me as I watched countless women streaming past. With three exits to the station, I waited at Gate A and hoped she'd use the same logic.
After 15 anxious minutes where I became increasingly convinced XiaoBai wouldn't show, a voice called out my name. It was XiaoBai. After an initial period of awkwardness, we soon relaxed as we walked the tourist area south of Tiananmen asking and answering each other's questions, taking photographs and discussing China. We found an excellent Chinese restaurant and ate together and she asked me if there was anything I had not been able to see? I said the Olympic Stadium and she suggested we go. She said her home was on the subway line north of the Bird's Nest Stadium and that after we saw it, she could head north and I could return to central Beijing.

Meeting XiaoBai
We chatted and laughed as we travelled and she explained that her friends had been checking up on her and me discreetly during the 'date', partly due to concern about who she was meeting and partly due to curiosity. She asked if she could send them a photo of me - which they greeted with laughter which I could hear!
When we arrived at the Bird's Nest Stadium and Olympic Swimming Cube, we were unable to get close due to the increased security leftover from the APEC summit the previous week. Unphased, XiaoBai was determined to get me closer to the venues and we spent the next hour climbing fences, walking through underpasses and skirting security railings. By the time we'd gotten closer, I was tired out from the full day, but the views were more than worth it and our shared adventure kept us (and XiaoBai's phone friends) laughing.
At 10.00pm we returned to the subway and said our farewells. A platonic kiss on the cheek and a promise to keep in touch and I was heading back to my hotel tired, but with a smile on my face. Who would have thought that I'd have two dates on the same day in Beijing? Not me.
My Beijing Dates! - Part Two
Now, these experiences are in stark contrast to the other two ladies I spent time with in Beijing. And in the interests of open and frank journalism, I feel I need to tell you about them.
On the Saturday night, after walking the Great Wall during the day, I decided to visit the night market. I was mesmerised by the sights, sounds and smells. The food was outrageous - scorpions, spiders, millipedes, snakes, starfish and more. Squares were filled with people dancing (a sort of faster paced Tai-chi to music, not dissimilar to American line dancing.) Young couples were posing for wedding photographs against back-lit public buildings and everywhere the hustle and bustle of trade and shopping.
The night market and dancing in the church square
A young Chinese woman approached me and asked me if I was English? Feeling positive and happy to chat, I answered yes and she went on to explain that she was studying English and had just finished a night class. She showed me some of the worksheets she was carrying and said that she found spoken English the most challenging. She then asked if I would be willing to have a drink with her and talk for a little while so she could practice? She said her English name was Lydia.
I hesitated a little and then agreed. She looked nice.
We walked towards a bar she knew and said we could get a beer. I explained that I would just have tea, but she could have a beer if she wanted. The roads got progressively more narrow and further from the night market and I was concentrating hard on remembering the route we were taking. Eventually we arrived at a nice looking, but very small bar. We were the only customers. Western music was playing, and we sat down and ordered. I wanted a tea. She ordered a cocktail.
The owners brought over our drinks and a bowl of nuts as we chatted. An hour later and I decided it was time to leave. We had chatted non-stop, finished our drinks and I was keen to go back to my hotel feeling knackered by the exertions of the day and knowing I was meeting Mary first thing in the morning.
The bill came. It was delivered by two men...
My cup of tea cost £36.00 and Lydia's cocktail was £20.00. The two men got closer as I discussed the bill with Lydia. They got closer when I said I was not paying.
I paid.
On Sunday evening, after returning from the Olympic Stadium (having left XiaoBai just 30 minutes earlier), I arrived at the subway station close to my hotel and had absolutely no idea where I was. This is not unusual, as my sense of direction is appalling. Getting out my map, I was approached by a young Chinese lady who asked me if I was English? "I am studying English," she said, "would you like to join me for a beer somewhere so I can practise?" I declined !! She persisted. I declined again. She got more specific. "You are good looking man. We go and have a drink somewhere and then maybe you have massage." I declined again and told her I was not interested. "I am good girl she said. We go have drink then you have sexy massage?" I started to walk away, looking at my map and the road signs I could see in the distance. She followed and became increasingly specific. "Special sex massage, I give you hand-job. I give you blow-job. I good girl. I like you. I not charge you much. 900 yuan. We go back to your hotel. I help you find the way."
Since that evening, when you'll all be pleased to hear that I declined her services and ignored her continued offers, I have been approached by dozens of women (and a few men) all eager to provide 'sexy massage' and more. What is most sad about this, is that clearly western business men and travellers have come to China and looked for sex. As a result, a thriving industry has developed. Being tall, white, naiive and often gormless, I am a perfect target. At least now I can see them coming towards me, intersecting my route as I walk along and I am able to say "No thank you," before they even speak to me.
It makes me appreciate the innocence of my time with Mary and XiaoBai all the more and is yet another valuable lesson and experience in my journey around the world.
Paul
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